Archives for December 2011

Moments of Significance

Christmas grandson

Hayden with Grandma Jo

Last night I found myself working til about 3am because I wanted to finish something that was of importance to my business and that was essential for my clients. I was enjoying it too.

The reason behind why I was left burning the midnight oil was clear to me and ever so valid.

Throughout the day, during the time that I had actually allocated for working on my business, my family had quite simply come first.

In the morning I had dropped off my partner Jo at her Mum’s house, who was entertaining Jo’s brother, sister-in-law and two year old niece, Madison, who were visiting from Canberra for the festive period.

Maddy & Troy with Auntie Jo

Maddy & Troy with Auntie Jo

They were off to the Aquarium for the afternoon as little Maddy (as the family calls her and spells it) is obsessed with ‘little fishies’, thanks to a certain movie about a guy named Nemo. Maddy also appears to idolise Auntie Jo, which I have no doubt is because Auntie Jo makes it obvious that she idolises her cute little niece.

Having recently visited both the Sydney and Melbourne aquariums with said family, I figured that I really needed to catch up on my burgeoning, though self-directed workload.

As I returned home alone, I made myself a protein shake (significantly looking after my health these days!), turned on my computer and prepared to tackle the backlog of ‘stuff to do’.

That’s when my daughter called.

‘Dad, what are you up to?’ she began.

I explained how I had opened up this window of opportunity so I could catch up on my work, waffling on in great detail in workaholic fashion.

Then suddenly, ‘Why?’ became the more obvious answer.

‘Craig (my 25 year old son), Hayden (my six month old grandson) and I (Kim, my 22 year old daughter) want to come over for a swim.’

So that was game, set and match, wasn’t it!

Sun cream applied to Craig

Sun cream applied to Craig - tick!

‘Abracadabra’ is an old Aramaic saying, meaning ‘Created as I say it’, hence its application to magic stage tricks.

Well, before you could say ‘Abracadabra’ I had my own moments of magic.

Craig asked for sun cream to be rubbed on his back as he’s a ‘ranga’ like me and somewhat vulnerable to the sun’s ultra violet.

Kim thought it was hilarious to leave him with two large handprints of cream on his back. Probably to most readers it wouldn’t seem that funny, it was one of those ‘You had to be there’ moments, and luckily for me, I was there.

Grandpa Tony with Hayden

Grandpa Tony with Hayden

The next moment, I was in the pool lifting my gorgeous grandson into his swim ring chair, watching his beaming smile as his little legs kicked like crazy beneath the surface, like a duck on steroids.

It didn’t even bother me when my son’s dog, who had been left inside as she is not allowed in the strata swimming pool, decided to lift the edge of my lounge carpet and chew the underlay in protest.

A few moments later, I have the image of my son, beer in stubby holder in hand (a true Aussie) hosing down his very hot dog to cool her down and watching ‘Roxy’ trying to bite the water as it came out of the hose.

Meanwhile, little Hayden was managing to smear chocolate over the couch, his Mum, up his nose, in fact just about everywhere – some even found its way into his mouth!

Needless to say, my work was put on hold til they left.

Later that afternoon, as I tried to complete a project, I had to abandon it to drive back up to Hillarys Marina and meet Jo and the clan for dinner at Jo’s Mum’s favourite restaurant.

This had been their first Christmas since losing Jo’s Dad to his battle with cancer and the sense of a need for family unity was tangible.

I watched little Maddy shrieking and giggling with delight as she sat in a playground boat with Auntie Jo and Cousin Troy, while her Daddy jumped up and down to rock the boat from astern.

I realised that this had been another significant moment in a day filled with significant moments. It is such moments that will be remembered and reminisced over, for years to come by those involved.

Jo stayed over at her Mum’s house so she could enjoy breakfast with her niece – only geography limits these opportunities. I returned home to fit in the work I wanted to complete for my clients.

When Jo’s phone call awakened me this morning I was dreaming a strange dream, and I rarely remember them, but this was to do with realising that once you die, many of the things, the ‘stuff’, the valued possessions that seem so important to you now, will be divided up, burnt or thrown away by other people, to whom they mean nothing.

My grown up children, Craig and Kim

My grown up children, Craig and Kim

I thought about our Christmas day family breakfast and how my brother Peter had made the effort to fly over from England specially to catch up with our parents, particularly our Father, who has been at death’s door many times this year, yet still fights on.

I’m glad that I could be true to my work ethic and my clients as I completed my tasks last night, but I am delighted that I made the time and space in my life for some far more significant moments.

I hope you are doing the same and that 2012 will become a year of great positive significance for us all.

I love the work that I do, I love where and how I live, and I love my family and friends. I’m a lucky man.

“The first trick to happiness – and success- is to appreciate what we’ve already got.”

Andrew Matthews

Seasons Greetings and Happy New Year!


Eco-Terrorism or Eco-Heroism?

Sea Shepherd

Sea Shepherd

I am proud to wear the tee shirts, caps and any other promotional merchandise that helps promote this organisation, whilst contributing to their cause, because I am a scuba diver who has an affinity with our marine life. I’m also a human being with an affinity for this planet.


The following is a debate I just had on facebook that outlines why we must become aware of how the actions of Japan impact on every human being on this planet.

If this is true, (the article below) it doesn’t impress me very much at all.

Right now, the Japanese whaling fleet is hunting thousands of majestic whales — guarded by a 30-million-dollar security force paid from disaster relief money! Meanwhile, Japanese children are stranded in radioactive areas with no funds to move away. Join the call to save kids, not whalers!
· · · Share · 12 hours ago
      • Brett KibblewhiteThis story was broken bout ten days ago and never got any traction. What a world we live in eh.

        12 hours ago ·
      • Tony InmanI was on a course and didn’t see much of the news. I’m glad to report that Captain Paul Watson and the Sea Shepherd crew are on the case to save the whales at least. Sad about the children though.

        11 hours ago ·
      • Brett KibblewhiteYeah it’s f****d. Sorry I couldn be more eloquent. Paul Watson is one of the great men of our time Ant – I know you know this.

        11 hours ago ·
      • Roelof EggensPaul Watson is not more than a Pirate, he has no respect for the laws at sea and he is bringing his personel, Emergenci response teams and the japanese vessels in a big danger. Im not saying that i agree with the japanse slaugter, absolute not. but what he is doing is out of line a big time.

        9 hours ago ·
      • Brett KibblewhiteSo whats your solution then Champ? You keeping them all to yourself?

        about an hour ago ·
      • Roelof EggensI have no solution for this mate, im not in the politics, but thats where they have to cut this down. Im à lot at sea and he is not some1 who supose to be à captain

        27 minutes ago ·
      • Tony InmanThanks Brett for your support. I decided to delay until I could give a more considered answer, so I went for a walk. In NLP we are taught that everyone has positive intention in their actions, even the burglar who robs our home, does so for his own reasons, perhaps to feed his family. The Japanese sailors probably believe they are right as they hunt whales to feed their families, like generations before them did. Roelof, as a man of the sea believes he is right to criticise Sea Shepherd because they do not conform to ‘safe sailing practices’. cont.

        11 minutes ago ·
      • Tony InmanHere’s the thing – if the Japs don’t stop killing whales, they will disappear from our oceans and the whole marine eco systems will be altered and damaged forever, perhaps terminally. Captain Paul Watson is seen by his enemies as a terrorist. To me, he is a hero – a man who has devoted his life to protect our eco-systems. Like Ghandi, he has resisted without violence. He has never killed or injured a Japanese sailor. He has just placed his ship between the whale killers and the whales, thus preserving the lives of thousands of peaceful creatures. cont.

        6 minutes ago ·
      • Tony InmanRoelof, if you are a man of the sea, then I would have thought you would respect and understand Captain Watson’s intentions. He is the only one who has had the balls to make a stand and really take action to protect our marine eco-systems, even when the Australian Government promised support and didn’t keep those promises. The Japanese are breaking International whale protection agreements, but no-one else is doing anything to stop them.

        4 minutes ago ·
      • Tony InmanTo say you are not in politics is a cop out. Every human being on this planet is in politics, because it’s our planet, and I for one would like the planet to survive for my grandchildren. Hunting species to extinction is not only unacceptable, it’s incredibly short-sighted and irresponsible. End of rant. Thanks for reading.
    Capt Paul Watson

    Capt Paul Watson

    If anyone would like more information, their facebook page is Sea Shepherd International. Their website is

My suggestion is that money is allocated to educate the Japanese about alternative means of providing the food, whale oil, or whatever resources they are currently gaining from killing whales.

My recommendation to the Australian Government is to stop being fearful of upsetting the Japanese Government, grow a pair, and provide some naval vessels to help Captain Paul Watson.