What to Do When Your Coffee Machine Dies and Other First World Problems…

 

My friend - the coffee machine

My friend – the coffee machine

Life as we know it has changed forever…Yes that day has come, and all too quickly I might add, when my coffee machine has inexplicably stopped working, right in the middle of making me a delicious and much-needed mocha.

I was counting on that mocha to give me inspiration for my next blog when suddenly I realised that it had!

This particular ball started rolling when I saw an invitation from Carmel Boutchard to like her FB page (Symmetry). An article caught my eye (source: http://www.boredpanda.com) because it was about how we ‘Western World dwellers’ find it so easy to whinge about the awful things that have simply ruined our day.

The comments ranged from complaining about having to wake up for the ironing lady who hadn’t arrived to waiting for 15 mins in a salad bar queue only to find they had run out of cous cous!

I loved the complaint about the ignomy of having bought a toaster only to find that it didn’t have a bagel setting while another complained in disgust about the quality of the massage she had just received in Indonesia.

So what do you do when your coffee machine dies?

 

Well I for one, realise how bloody lucky I am to:

(a) have a coffee machine in the first place

(b) live in a nice home with working electricity that can power a coffee machine

(c) have an income stream that allows me to afford such things

(d) live in a country with an economy that rewards effort

In other words, remember to count your blessings!

Some people have to be the ironing lady because that’s the only work they can get; some people don’t have supermarkets, let alone salad bars or cous cous; some people couldn’t afford a toaster and don’t have electricity; while some people have to give numerous massages to fat, ungrateful holiday-makers just to scrape enough money to keep a roof over their family’s head tonight.

Other dramas I have whinged about recently myself include: having our air-con pack up on a 35 degree day; the pool at our strata complex being out of action for several days; and my car being on its last legs!

So how do we snap out of our First World pity-party?

One of the things my coach got me to do last year was to start a jar of happiness and gratitude. Trust me when I say that it is a very rewarding exercise.

Jar of Happiness & Gratitude

Jar of Happiness & Gratitude

You find an empty, clean jar to keep on your desk and every day, or as often as you remember, write little notes of gratitude for the things in your life that you appreciate or that have made you happy. When you get to the end of the year, you open the jar and read all of the messages you have written to yourself. This simple exercise makes you happier and more appreciative of your life with each note, each day, but reading the whole lot together is a really uplifting treat for your soul.

When I read some of them to my girlfriend, Joanne, she said “My goal is to make sure that there are even more of those notes about me next year”.

 

 

Perhaps we should all make it our goal to impact positively and with kindness on the lives of more people we encounter, each and every day.

I’ll leave you with that thought  😀

'If Life's Worth Doing, It's Worth Doing Well'

Tony Inman’ new book

 

 

Until we meet next time – here’s a quick reminder that my latest book is now available for pre-order, ready for release very soon. It’s called ‘If Life’s Worth Doing, It’s Worth Doing Well – Finding Sane Fulfillment in an Insane World’

 

What Goes Around…

Inspirational Video -What Goes Around Comes Around (Or As You Sow, So Shall You Reap)

This is a short clip that shows how a simple act of kindness and human decency can have a ripple effect that is truly astonishing.

You may have seen those bumper stickers that say ‘Magic Happens’ – it’s up to you – ‘Make it Happen!’

Check out Tony’s book on ‘How To Get A Bigger Bite Out Of Life’

Good or Evil? Which One will Win?

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The two wolves are constantly fighting

There is an old Cherokee tale of a grandfather teaching life principles to his grandson.

The wise old Cherokee said, “Son, on the inside of every person the battle is raging between two wolves. One wolf is evil. It’s angry, jealous, unforgiving, proud, and lazy. The other wolf is good. It is filled with love, kindness, humility, and encouragement. These two wolves are constantly fighting.”

The little boy thought about it and said, “Grandfather, which wolf is going to win?”

The grandfather smiled and said, “Which ever one you feed.”

*****

Which wolf are you feeding in your mind?

Remember that even when you can’t always choose what happens to you in your life, only you can choose how you will react.

 

I just love the wisdom of esoteric tribal teachings. You should listen to what Grandpa’s have to say…

I know, because I’m now a Grandpa!

Have a great week 😛

Empower Yourself or Be Overpowered

Dr John Demartini with Tony Inman

“Any area of your life you don’t empower, someone else will overpower you”. – Dr John Demartini

Dr Demartini is considered one of the world’s leading authorities on human behavior and personal development. He is the founder of the Demartini Institute, a private research and education organization with a curriculum of over 72 different courses covering multiple aspects of human development.

His trademarked methodologies, the Demartini Method and the Demartini Value Determination, are the culmination of 39 years of cross-disciplinary research and study. His work has been  incorporated into  human development industries across the world.

Dr Demartini travels 360 days a year to countries all over the globe,  sharing his research and findings in all markets and sectors. He is the author of 40 books published in 28 different languages. He has produced over 50 CDs and DVDs covering subjects such as development in relationships, wealth, education and business. Each program is designed to assist people to activate leadership and empower themselves in all seven areas of their lives: Financial, physical, mental, vocational, spiritual, family and social.

‘I caught up with him at the recent event in Perth, entitled ‘Business Breakthrough’. He thanked me for coming and complimented me on my tie! In just a few seconds he gave you the feeling that you were the most important person he had met that day. Now that is a gift to which we should all aspire. I told him that it was an honour to meet him.

If you ever get chance to attend one of his seminars, I highly recommend it.’

Tony Inman – ‘The Reinvention Specialist’

Check out Tony’s business site at www.clubred.com.au

How To Get A Bigger Bite Out Of Life – Special Edition

How To Get a Bigger Bite Out of Life

How To Get a Bigger Bite Out of Life by George Faddoul & Tony Inman

 

I’m pleased and honoured to announce the release of a special edition book in conjunction with my friend and NLP mentor, the legendary George Faddoul.

It’s a thought provoking, light and easy read that has already changed many peoples’ lives.

George Faddoul is a successful entrepreneur and author of several books including ‘The Evolution of i-NLP’ and ‘The Modern Day Alchemist From the Land of the Pharoahs’.

George is also a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and a Certified Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming.

This book also makes a perfect gift idea for special occasions, such as :

  • birthdays
  • Mother’s and Father’s Days
  • helping cheer someone up
  • helping a friend to get moving!

The recommended retail prices is $20 (Australian) but you can order at a special price through this website for only $15.00. Click here to order today!

‘After reading this book, the individual who walks out into the world will be a different person than the one who started reading it in the first place’.

Darren Stephens, Chairman, Mars Venus & author of ‘Success Principles’

 

 

Today’s Memories Come from the Decisions in Our Past

Victoria College, Jersey

Victoria College, Jersey

Last week an old school chum, Derek Facey surprised me by ‘liking’ my ‘Tony Inman Living the Dream’ facebook page.

I hadn’t spoken to him for over 30 years, since we left Victoria College in Jersey, Channel Islands and I was too busy that day to acknowledge his endorsement. I was then away in Sydney on business and busy on my return, so I forgot to follow it up.

Yesterday morning, owing to the time zone difference and being eight hours ahead, I was probably one of the first to wish him a happy birthday when I saw the notification.

Last night though, another school friend sadly informed me that Derek never actually made it to his birthday, having already suffered a massive heart attack. He was only 50 years old.

So the lesson is that we don’t know how long we’ve got.

Therefore, my advice is don’t sweat the petty, trivial stuff that can so easily take over our lives.

I’m not saying be an anarchist! Do what you have to do of course.

What I am saying is ‘Do your best to be kind, be generous, live your life in a way that will inspire others and make each day count.’

At school, I remember that Derek suffered with a stutter and was initially ridiculed for it. I’m sure there were times when I  took the mickey out of him too. Children can be more cruel than they intend or realise. He brushed it off but I’m sure it must have hurt him.

I do also remember being friends with him for a while though. I remember visiting his house during school holidays and he was a good guy from a good family. He usually wore a waistcoat and was slightly eccentric – a trait I admire!

We never fell out with each other – we simply drifted apart and I moved to Australia.

The funny thing is that once you got to know him, you didn’t really notice the stutter so much – you just noticed the person instead.

I’ll bet if you asked the guys who tormented him back then about this, on hearing of his premature demise, they might wish they had behaved differently back then. Hindsight is a great teacher.

Today’s memories are a product of decisions we made in the past. So what decisions are you making today that will shape your future?

In conclusion,  R.I.P. Derek, thanks for ‘liking’ my page. I hope that you gained something from reading my posts. I’m glad that I knew you and my sincere condolences to your family.

It’s been a while since we left that noble school, yet we are still learning lessons from it.

Joy can be Found in the Simple Things

Who's teaching whom?

Who's teaching whom?

I have a feeling that my grandson, Hayden is going to teach me a lot. He’s now seven months old and full of beans.

‘Shouldn’t that be the other way around?’ you ask.

Well actually, here’s the thing…

Something I’ve rediscovered in my quest for continual improvement as a coach is that the best way to learn things is to teach them.

Profound eh?

Think about it though – when someone asks you a question or they have a problem on which they are stuck, you help them discover the solution by asking questions around the issue.

Jeff Slayter and Kane Minkus, who are my amazing coaching gurus, describe the process as ‘Discovering a whole heap of rabbit holes and diving down them until you figure out which rabbit hole is the most important one to the client so you can keep digging’.

As you ask the questions and observe the reactions and responses, it challenges your own thinking too.

In fact, the strangest thing is that I keep finding that the very things my clients are asking me about and having problems with, seem to be a direct reflection of my own questions. Sometimes they are current issues or sometimes they are issues that I have just finished sorting out myself.

In helping my clients, I also  crystallize my own thoughts and consolidate my own strategies or direction.

You could actually conclude that we see life as a reflection of ourselves, because all of our beliefs and habits are shaped by our experiences and our familial structure, so we filter everything we experience through our own unique view of the way the world works – what we students of Neuro Linguistic Patterning call ‘Our Map of the World’.

 

What we see is a reflection of ourselves

What we see is a reflection of ourselves

 

George Faddoul, another of my great NLP mentors said that ‘We should never be astonished at anything that happens in life’.

Now that’s a deep topic for another day, but the point is that the lessons are there, just waiting for us to notice them.

What started my train of thought was seeing the sparkle of joy in Hayden’s eyes as I waved a bottle of water in front of him.

We’d just finished our Tuesday evening volleyball game and the family were all stood in the car park chatting under the floodlights.

The light was catching the water in the bottle and causing interesting reflections.

Hayden was fascinated and his little face was beaming with delight as he reached out to touch the bottle.

It was the same fascination he had when we put a mirror on the floor for him the other night.

So there you have it. Seek out enlightenment and reach out and grab it, no matter your age.

Children aren’t cluttered with all of the stuff that we worry about. They just see the joy in the simplest of things. Now if we adults could reinvent ourselves to be that way again…

Until next time, remember to look and to notice those special moments.

Looking for Different & Improved Results?

Loral-Langemeier

Loral Langemeier

“If you want something new, you must do something different today.”

Loral Langemeier

From her book – ‘The Millionaire Maker’

 

I was fortunate enough to attend one of Loral’s seminars in September and WOW, is this lady powerful!

Loral pulls no punches in telling you that it is your responsibility to change your thinking and your behaviours if you want to achieve a better outcome in your world, especially your financial world!

The good thing though, is that she follows it up with some great advice on exactly how to do that.

If she is ever in your town, do yourself a favour – go and see her.

Another Tick off my Goals List

Tony & Jo complete Perth City to Surf

Tony & Jo at the start line

Last weekend, Perth played host to one of its biggest community events, the annual City to Surf race.

 

Raising funds for local charity group, the Activ foundation, an eclectic mix of runners and walkers, old and young together, make their way from St Georges Terrace in the City to City Beach on the coast.

 

Originally, the course was a straightforward 12 km stretch, before a 4km walk option was added, to cater for those who sought involvement but lacked the necessary fitness for the long haul.

 

This year also featured a half marathon and full marathon options – a massive 45 kms.

 

It’s a fun event, with many runners sporting fancy dress outfits to brighten the occasion. The finale is somewhat akin to a carnival atmosphere with a fairground and  huge marquis banquets provided by Perth’s rich mining companies for their staff.

 

Tony in 1985

Tony finishing a half marathon in 1985

I ran my first City to Surf event 25 years ago, wearing a Target tee-shirt, who were my employers when I first arrived in Perth. Needless to say, having completed both the Guernsey and Jersey half marathons the year before that, I was a fit and relatively skinny young man back then. The race drew around 4,000 runners.

 

Since then I have completed, I think, eight City to Surfs, but I have to confess that the last one was about five years ago!

 

Today, the event caters for around 42,000 entrants in the various categories. Jo was an excited, first time participant.

 

Wearing a middle aged tyre these days, I decided to use the event as a motivational tool to help me improve my fitness level. To show I was really serious about working on my fitness, I also gave up drinking alcohol for the four weeks leading up to the race.

 

Despite a few lengthy training stints, I was still not as prepared as I would have liked, but nevertheless, my girlfriend Jo and I made the effort and completed the race (in time for a hearty breakfast courtesy of Jo’s employer, Chevron).

 

We’re now determined to maintain our new habits of going for walks and jogs, and have set a goal to improve on our time next year. This fits in well with our goal to complete the Inca Trek (45 kms) to Macchu Picchu in Peru next year.

 

With our walk to and from the race, plus the race itself, we covered around 18 kms on foot last Sunday. We were both pretty stiff and sore that evening, so we still have some training to do, but I am glad to say that we were both exhilarated for sticking to our goals, including a dry month for me.

 

The moral of the story – Keep setting fun goals – they keep you young at heart.

Plus the act of committing to a pledge you have made to the person in the mirror can be a catalyst to empower you to achieve other goals as well.

I highly recommend the idea to my clients (subject to medical clearance of course!)

 

Until next time, seize the day!

A Chinese Proverb That Is On The Money

happiness

Happiness Can Be Found In Helping Hands

 

‘If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap.

If you want happiness for a day, go fishing.

If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune.

If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.’

Chinese Proverb