Don’t Regret – Make It Happen!

 

Doing the things that inspire you

Doing the things that inspire you

If you were lying on your death bed right now and reflecting on your life, would you regret the things you did, or the things you didn’t do?

There are those of course who would say that you did exactly what you were meant to to, so in fact it’s all about perception, but just for a moment let’s examine this question in the context of a theory that you do have the power to design your own life, the way you want it to be.

We all have in us a quirky brain function known as the ‘Reticular Activating System’ (RAS). You may have heard of it, but just in case you haven’t, it’s the what filters the information you receive and decides which bits are important enough for you to focus on.

In the book, ‘The Leadership Brain For Dummies‘ by Marilee B. Sprenger, she states that, “For survival’s sake, your RAS responds to your name, anything that threatens your survival, and information that you need immediately.” She goes on to explain that, “The RAS also responds to novelty. You notice anything new and different.” So, for example, when you are thinking of buying a particular type of car, you will suddenly notice that car popping up all over the place. The cars were always there among the crowd of other cars on the roads, but suddenly you see them because your sub-conscious mind is pushing them up to the forefront of your conscious mind and tagging them as important.

When I was renovating a bathroom at my old tourism establishment, for a brief while there I was focused on bathroom tiles. Everywhere I went, I found myself noticing bathroom tiles – even when I went to the gents after a movie at the cinema! I remember asking myself, “Are you losing the plot here? Enough with the bathroom tiles!”

'If Life's Worth Doing, It's Worth Doing Well'

Tony Inman’ new book

Recently, I just finished writing a book, entitled ‘If Life’s Worth Doing It’s Worth Doing Well’ with the sub-title of ‘Finding Sane Fulfillment in an Insane World’. As the name suggests, it’s about making the most of your life while you can.

Therefore it should come as no surprise to me that my RAS keeps popping up references to this theme, so today on Facebook an old friend, Brett Kibblewhite shared a fascinating article by Sina Anvari.

(Reference: http://www.karenstan.net/2013/11/11/nurse-reveals-top-5-regrets-people-make-deathbed/)

The article is called, ‘Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed’

Relish the joy of living your dreams

Relish the joy of living your dreams

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness

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I’m reminded of a song here, cheesy though this may seem! Here are the lyrics to Frank Sinatra’s great hit, ‘My Way”, written by Jacques Revaux, Claude Francois, Gilles Thibaut and Paul Anka.

And now, the end is near
And so I face the final curtain
My friend, I’ll say it clear
I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain
I’ve lived a life that’s full
I traveled each and ev’ry highway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way

Regrets, I’ve had a few
But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do , I saw it through without exemption
I planned each charted course, each careful step along the highway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew
And through it all, when there was doubt
I ate it up and spit it out
I faced it all and I stood tall and did it my way

I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried
I’ve had my fill, my share of losing
And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing
To think I did all that
And may I say, not in a shy way,
“Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way”

For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has naught
The right to say the things he feels and not the words of one who kneels
The record shows I took the blows and did it my way!

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Fulfilling a dream of visiting Paris in 1994

Fulfilling a dream of visiting Paris in 1994

My RAS also helps me to harness the Laws of Attraction to bring me opportunities to achieve the goals I have set for myself. That all begins with thinking about what you want out of your life and what is most important to you, then formulating plans to make your dreams come true.

If you’d like to pre-order a copy of my book, you can read more about this topic.

If you’d like some business advice on how to set up your business so you can live more of the life you’d like, then check out my business site at Club Red Inspiration.

So that’s all from me for now. Until next time, “Seize the day!”

How About That For A Leap Of Faith?

Felix Baumgartner took a giant leap of faith

Felix Baumgartner took a giant leap of faith

For English speaking people, the name ‘Felix Baumgartner’ sounds a little quirky, which fits quite nicely with why his name will be remembered for a very long time.

Millions of astonished TV viewers around the world watched as the 43 year old Austrian thrillseeker took a huge leap of faith to plummet over 39,000 meters (128,000 feet) from his helium balloon above the Earth.

This was no random act of attention-seeking frivolity, however.

In making the jump, Felix became the first human being to break the 768 miles per hour sound barrier in freefall.

In fact he reached a top speed of 1,340 km per hour (833 mph).

“If something goes wrong, the only thing that might help you is God. The only thing that you hear is yourself breathing.”

said Felix before making the world record jump.

The risks don’t even bear thinking about. Had Felix’s specially designed $235,000 pressure suit failed in the stratosphere, his blood would have boiled.

Had it failed during freefall, his heart would have stopped and his eyeballs would have burst.

The bottom line is that failure would almost certainly have meant death.

The obvious question people asked Felix was “Why did you do it?”

“For the same reason people climbed Mount Everest.”

This record breaking leap of faith also provided vital scientific research as mankind continues the quest to explore life opportunities beyond Earth.

Will you venture into the unknown?

Will you venture into the unknown?

Baumgartner was covered in monitors that will provide invaluable information for scientists and spacecraft designers, who need safe escape options for passengers in the future, about the effects on the human body.

It did not escape my attention that Red Bull sponsored the Stratos capsule from which Felix jumped. They are making a habit of supporting adventure sports and are a great example of how companies can align their effective marketing with missions that advance humanity.

I don’t get the impression that this will swell Felix’s head too much though, as he made this wonderful comment:

“Sometimes you have to go up really high to understand how small you really are.”

It makes you think though doesn’t it.

If Felix Baumgartner can take a leap of faith like that, with those kind of potential risks, where in your life might you risk taking a teeny bit bigger leap of faith?

Food for thought!

Have a great day 🙂

The Sum of a Man’s (or Woman’s) Life

 

If you want a lesson in making your life count for something, then try writing and delivering a eulogy.
It’s not my intention to darken your day – in fact, read on and I hope you’ll find my message will have the opposite effect. Nevertheless, only three weeks ago, I had to do exactly that, at my own Father’s funeral.

 

Bill Inman - 1922-2012

Bill Inman – 1922-2012

Raymond Inman, known by his preferred name of Bill, passed away three weeks after his 90th birthday and eight months after his 70th wedding anniversary.

 

Alan Small - 1937-2011

Alan Small – 1937-2011

It’s the second eulogy I’ve spoken – the former was at the funeral of my girlfriend’s father, Alan Small, who passed away aged 73 in June last year.
On both of these occasions, I realised for me that the legacy you leave behind consists of three things:

 

 

The Legacy You Leave Behind
1.    Your Family – It took the passing of my Father for me to realise what a loving, caring bunch of people my family actually were, because like so many families these days, we have allowed our busy lives to get in the way. My siblings and I have all devoted our careers to service-providing industries. Our children have all done the same.

Take-away: Think about the role model you want to be.
2.    Your Relationships – In both cases, I was staggered at how many people either turned up to pay their respects, or took the trouble to send their condolences.
Take-away: Think less about what you want from others, and think more about what you can give.
3.    Your Experiences – Kevin Costner (famous actor) said in an interview that ‘A man’s life is the sum of his experiences’. Well both of our fathers lived incredible lives, travelling the world and living their dreams, while they quietly got on with their work and provided for their families.
Take-away: Don’t live a settle-for life – design your life the way you want it to be.

 

connected to the universe

Connected to the Universe

In my eulogy for my Dad, I quoted Dr Wayne Dyer (famous inspirational author and speaker)…
‘We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, rather we are spiritual beings having a human experience’.

I have recently studied quantum physics with Dr John DeMartini and Hawaiian spiritual Huna teachings with Dr Serge Kahili King, and I find a common theme in the belief that we are all connected – to each other and to Planet Earth and all of its creatures.

We are also all made up of goodness and badness, lightness and darkness. In fact, things are neither one nor the other, unless we make them so.

Tony Robbins (famous inspirational author and speaker) says, ‘Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning we give it. If you don’t like the way you feel, choose to create a new meaning.’

When all’s said and done, one day we will all transform from our physical form into whatever you believe comes next for you.

I’m reminded of the stirring words of the Scottish warrior, William Wallace, in the movie ‘Braveheart’ – ‘Every man dies; not every man really lives’.

Our two fathers really lived.

 

So, I ask you sincerely, think about what you stand for, whom and what you are passionate about and what meaning you would like your life to have for those who follow and care about you.

Don’t sweat the small stuff, be glad that you have another day on this Earth, another day to influence the people with whom you connect, smile more often and seize your day.

Until next time we meet, make it count.

Tony Inman

Another Tick off my Goals List

Tony & Jo complete Perth City to Surf

Tony & Jo at the start line

Last weekend, Perth played host to one of its biggest community events, the annual City to Surf race.

 

Raising funds for local charity group, the Activ foundation, an eclectic mix of runners and walkers, old and young together, make their way from St Georges Terrace in the City to City Beach on the coast.

 

Originally, the course was a straightforward 12 km stretch, before a 4km walk option was added, to cater for those who sought involvement but lacked the necessary fitness for the long haul.

 

This year also featured a half marathon and full marathon options – a massive 45 kms.

 

It’s a fun event, with many runners sporting fancy dress outfits to brighten the occasion. The finale is somewhat akin to a carnival atmosphere with a fairground and  huge marquis banquets provided by Perth’s rich mining companies for their staff.

 

Tony in 1985

Tony finishing a half marathon in 1985

I ran my first City to Surf event 25 years ago, wearing a Target tee-shirt, who were my employers when I first arrived in Perth. Needless to say, having completed both the Guernsey and Jersey half marathons the year before that, I was a fit and relatively skinny young man back then. The race drew around 4,000 runners.

 

Since then I have completed, I think, eight City to Surfs, but I have to confess that the last one was about five years ago!

 

Today, the event caters for around 42,000 entrants in the various categories. Jo was an excited, first time participant.

 

Wearing a middle aged tyre these days, I decided to use the event as a motivational tool to help me improve my fitness level. To show I was really serious about working on my fitness, I also gave up drinking alcohol for the four weeks leading up to the race.

 

Despite a few lengthy training stints, I was still not as prepared as I would have liked, but nevertheless, my girlfriend Jo and I made the effort and completed the race (in time for a hearty breakfast courtesy of Jo’s employer, Chevron).

 

We’re now determined to maintain our new habits of going for walks and jogs, and have set a goal to improve on our time next year. This fits in well with our goal to complete the Inca Trek (45 kms) to Macchu Picchu in Peru next year.

 

With our walk to and from the race, plus the race itself, we covered around 18 kms on foot last Sunday. We were both pretty stiff and sore that evening, so we still have some training to do, but I am glad to say that we were both exhilarated for sticking to our goals, including a dry month for me.

 

The moral of the story – Keep setting fun goals – they keep you young at heart.

Plus the act of committing to a pledge you have made to the person in the mirror can be a catalyst to empower you to achieve other goals as well.

I highly recommend the idea to my clients (subject to medical clearance of course!)

 

Until next time, seize the day!

Merry Christmas…and where would you like to spend the next one?

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Merry Christmas

I’d like to take the opportunity to wish all readers a very Merry Christmas!

There’s no doubt that many of us like to spend this festive time with family and friends, but wouldn’t it also be nice to have at least one Christmas where you get away to somewhere exotic?

Ok, if you really can’t stand the thought of not being with the family, then why not take them with you!

If you like the idea of travelling regularly to amazing exotic locations, ask yourself, if you could stay at 5 Star resorts, but only pay 1 Star prices, how cool would that be?

The great news is that you can!

Contact me, Tony, for an absolutely obligation free invitation to look at the Resorts 360 Vacation Club Membership Programme. That’s exactly what I did and I was very impressed – so impressed in fact, that I became an Authorised Distributor for the Travel Club Programme.

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Christmas on a beach anyone?

The holiday accommodation prices and locations are so fantastic, that I can’t give you exact details here out of respect for our suppliers, but just as an example, how about a villa for 4 people for a whole week in Cancun, Mexico for around $250?

That’s not the nightly price as you’d expect, but the price for the villa for a whole week!

Resorts 360 also now has cruises at incredible discounts, not to mention car rentals!

Don’t just take my word for it – there are no hidden surprises – check it out yourself. Contact me for a link that will enable you to look at every offer available to our members.

If you’re curious, but want to have a sneaky peek without contacting me, then just have a look via my invitation website at www.bucketlistholidays.com

That one just gives you access to a generic site, but if you want to see the amazing new site that has just been upgraded with all of the latest deals, do yourself a favour and touch base with me so I can give you a link that will astonish you.

Until next time, have a relaxing and safe holiday season!

Tony Inman


Perseverance is…


Dennis-Waitley

Dennis-Waitley


I first read one of Dennis Waitley’s books about a year after arriving in Australia, around 24 years ago.

It was ‘The Seeds of Greatness’ and it contained a lot of very useful lessons in life, many of which my wife and I applied in raising our two children.

I reminded myself recently of one of the key topics in that book that is one of the old truths. It is one that will remain a constant truth – that a key ingredient to success at anything is perseverence.

The following is an extract from Dennis’ book, which I highly recommend.




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Persevere to Succeed

“Perseverance does not always mean sticking to the same thing forever. It means giving full concentration and effort to whatever you are doing, right now!


It means doing the tough things first and looking downstream for gratification and rewards. It means being happy in your work, but hungry for more knowledge and progress.

It means making more calls, going more miles, pulling more weeds, getting up earlier in the day and always being on the lookout for a better way of doing what you’re doing.

Perseverance is success through trial and error.”

Dennis Waitley – ‘Seeds of Greatness’

The picture above is of Torah Bright of Australia receiving her gold medal at the Beijing Olympics in 2008. To win gold or just to succeed at our own individual daily goals requires each of us in our own way to focus and put in effort.

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Termite mound, Australian Outback


Tony’s Viewpoint: “I am a firm believer in the importance of keeping sharper and more focused on the results you want out of your life, by taking time out to think and reflect on the things that you could be doing better.

Travelling to totally different places is one of my key goals in life, but there is a double benefit, because every time I go away I learn something new about myself in the process.

Perhaps for you, the ideas will flow when you are just sitting in the hotel swimming pool, sipping your favourite cocktail.

Whatever works best for you – dream big and make it happen!”


One of the projects in which I am now involved is a Vacation Club called Resorts 360, which enables you to stay in 5 star resorts around the world, paying as low as 1 star prices.

If you like the sound of that idea and would like some no obligation information on the amazing deals available to you right now, simply contact Tony to receive an overview.

That’s right – you are not being asked to buy anything – this is just to give you the information.

Furthermore, this Vacation Club also has an income producing opportunity available as well, should you be in need of some extra holiday funds.

I hope to hear from you, but until next time, “Persevere in the pursuit of your dreams!”



The First Trick To Happiness – And Success…


happiness-now

Appreciate what you already have!


Here is a small excerpt from a book by Andrew Matthews, an amazingly talented guy whom I have been priviledged to hear and see presenting on stage many years ago in Perth.

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What We Have

Imagine that we discovered life on Mars – even if it was only a tiny bug, or an ant with one leg…

The world would go crazy! Splashed across the front page of every newspaper would be headlines, “THERE”S LIFE OUT THERE!”

Scientists would be ecstatic, “Another species!”

Now here’s what’s strange…twenty-seven thousand of the earth’s species of birds, plants, animals and insects became extinct last year.

The story never made the headlines.

Our tigers and pandas and frogs are disappearing. Meanwhile, we look for signs of life in outer space!

How often do we overlook the great things we have – and go looking for new stuff?

We do the same thing in relationships!

When we finally realise what we had, it’s gone.


Andrew Matthews

Andrew Matthews





IN A NUTSHELL

The first trick to happiness – and success – is to appreciate what we’ve already got.

Andrew Matthews, from his book “Happiness Now”





Andrew has written numerous best sellers, including “Being Happy”, “Making Friends”, “Follow Your Heart”, “Being a Happy Teen”, “Happiness in a Nutshell”. His books have been translated into 33 languages and are bestsellers in 60 countries! He is a much sought after speaker around the world on attitude, achievement and prosperity.


Tony Inman Resorts 360Tony’s Viewpoint: I love the way a cartoonist can encapsulate an idea or a concept with a simple image and the exaggeration of caricature work. With Andrew’s work we are even more fortunate, because he writes and speaks well too.

Notice the cartoon shows a man relaxing in a hammock between palm trees with his favourite cocktail?

If you already know me, you’ll know that I’m going to advocate the importance of work/life balance, of realising and being thankful for the opportunities we already have.

I’m especially going to advocate the importance of setting goals to do the things that make you happy. For me, travel and holidays are a major part of that!

Ask me about the incredible opportunities for 5 star holidays at 1 star prices, available now, with membership of a Worldwide Vacation Club. It’s not time share, you’re not locked in and the prices have to be seen to be believed.


Contact me for a no obligation chat and some more information. It can save you a fortune and create memorable holiday experiences for you and your loved ones.

Until next time, enjoy happiness now and make the most of every day!

Start Today!


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Dr Samuel Johnson




“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.”
Samuel Johnson

Samuel Johnson (1709– 1784), often referred to as Dr Johnson, was a British author who made lasting contributions to English Literature as a poet, essayist, moralist, literary critic, biographer, editor and lexicographer. He has been described as “arguably the most distinguished man of letters in English history” by the Oxford Dictionary of National Biographies.




Dr Johnson reminds of the need to avoid procrastination and to be wary of how sometimes a desire to do things perfectly can prevent us from simply getting on with things.

Life is actually quite short when you start thinking about all of the things you’d probably like to do during your lifetime if you had the chance.

tiger-moth-tony-2010Tony’s viewpoint: “I’ve always found that if you think about something that you’d like to do, or that needs to be done, if you write it down as a goal or a task to be performed, along with a deadline for achieving it, then remind yourself of it regularly, there is a far greater chance that you will accomplish it.

I always have long lists of ‘Things to Do’, but by listing them, I usually do work my way through them, like my goal of flying a Tiger Moth bi-plane.”


Idea: Find an hour to sit down quietly and write down all of the things you’d like to do, the places you’d like to visit, the people you’d like to meet.

If you want some ideas, contact Tony about the amazing holiday destinations you could visit, courtesy of the Resorts 360 Vacation Club. It costs nothing to have a look and there is no obligation to buy anything. You will be astonished at how easy it will be to achieve some of the things on your list!

Until the next time, stay positive and take positive action towards achieving your goals!

You Are The Master…


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Napoleon Hill




“You are the master of your own earthly destiny just as surely as you have the power to control your own thoughts.”

Napoleon Hill


Napoleon Hill is a celebrated author of many books about success, motivation and positive thinking.

In this quote he reminds us that we can shape our own destiny by the way we think.

Thoughts are very powerful things. How many times do you witness a game of sport for example, where one team think they can win and the other team begins to doubt whether they can.

The second team start to show it in their body language – their heads drop, they look despondent. Accordingly their play begins to deteriorate as they lose that mental will to win.


tony-sydney-harbour-bridgeTony’s view: Everything that happens in your life is affected by the way you think.

Think positive thoughts and you will attract positive results!

Whenever things start to go wrong, I try to stop myself from reacting badly and think “How can I turn this around to a positive?”


One of the best ways to restore the positive in your life is to take some time to rest and recuperate. Have a change of scenery and a break away from the mudane things in life.

For me, I love travelling to different places and I love to go scuba diving around the world. For you it might be just lazing by a pool or it might be doing something adventurous.

Have a look at the incredible holiday ideas available from the Resorts 360 Vacation Club, via my site at www.bucketlistholidays.com

Or check out my site at www.holidayspecialsbali.com

Or if you just want to save some money on great travel discounts in Australia, check my site at www.clubred.com.au

Until next we meet, think big and shape your destiny!

“I’ll never forget the people we met there…” Natalie Miller, Scotland

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Nat from Scotland

Another young lady who stayed in Tony’s Perth-based tourism business was Natalie from Scotland, who wrote:

“I can truly say this hostel made my time in Oz the best. It was like making a new family.

I only planned to stay a week while visiting relatives and ended up staying for 3. I was so upset when we had to leave! Everyone was brilliant, the guests and the staff.

When we arrived it seemed like we were already part of them. Instead of going out with your friends you go out as a family. I noticed it was the only hostel in Perth that seemed to be that way!! I loved it so much and can’t wait to go back. If you’re thinking of going definitely do! We thought we had landed lucky with such an amazing place and I’ll never forget the people we met there.”

Natalie Miller AKA Scottish Nat…, November 2005

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Nat made a really important point that is one of the greatest benefits of travelling the world – the people you meet can change your life.

The places you visit and the things you see will also change your life.

Find out more about how you can travel the world in luxury at amazingly cheap prices.

Look at www.bucketlistholidays.com