Archives for February 2012

How To Get A Bigger Bite Out Of Life – Special Edition

How To Get a Bigger Bite Out of Life

How To Get a Bigger Bite Out of Life by George Faddoul & Tony Inman

 

I’m pleased and honoured to announce the release of a special edition book in conjunction with my friend and NLP mentor, the legendary George Faddoul.

It’s a thought provoking, light and easy read that has already changed many peoples’ lives.

George Faddoul is a successful entrepreneur and author of several books including ‘The Evolution of i-NLP’ and ‘The Modern Day Alchemist From the Land of the Pharoahs’.

George is also a Certified Trainer of Hypnosis and a Certified Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming.

This book also makes a perfect gift idea for special occasions, such as :

  • birthdays
  • Mother’s and Father’s Days
  • helping cheer someone up
  • helping a friend to get moving!

The recommended retail prices is $20 (Australian) but you can order at a special price through this website for only $15.00. Click here to order today!

‘After reading this book, the individual who walks out into the world will be a different person than the one who started reading it in the first place’.

Darren Stephens, Chairman, Mars Venus & author of ‘Success Principles’

 

 

Today’s Memories Come from the Decisions in Our Past

Victoria College, Jersey

Victoria College, Jersey

Last week an old school chum, Derek Facey surprised me by ‘liking’ my ‘Tony Inman Living the Dream’ facebook page.

I hadn’t spoken to him for over 30 years, since we left Victoria College in Jersey, Channel Islands and I was too busy that day to acknowledge his endorsement. I was then away in Sydney on business and busy on my return, so I forgot to follow it up.

Yesterday morning, owing to the time zone difference and being eight hours ahead, I was probably one of the first to wish him a happy birthday when I saw the notification.

Last night though, another school friend sadly informed me that Derek never actually made it to his birthday, having already suffered a massive heart attack. He was only 50 years old.

So the lesson is that we don’t know how long we’ve got.

Therefore, my advice is don’t sweat the petty, trivial stuff that can so easily take over our lives.

I’m not saying be an anarchist! Do what you have to do of course.

What I am saying is ‘Do your best to be kind, be generous, live your life in a way that will inspire others and make each day count.’

At school, I remember that Derek suffered with a stutter and was initially ridiculed for it. I’m sure there were times when I  took the mickey out of him too. Children can be more cruel than they intend or realise. He brushed it off but I’m sure it must have hurt him.

I do also remember being friends with him for a while though. I remember visiting his house during school holidays and he was a good guy from a good family. He usually wore a waistcoat and was slightly eccentric – a trait I admire!

We never fell out with each other – we simply drifted apart and I moved to Australia.

The funny thing is that once you got to know him, you didn’t really notice the stutter so much – you just noticed the person instead.

I’ll bet if you asked the guys who tormented him back then about this, on hearing of his premature demise, they might wish they had behaved differently back then. Hindsight is a great teacher.

Today’s memories are a product of decisions we made in the past. So what decisions are you making today that will shape your future?

In conclusion,  R.I.P. Derek, thanks for ‘liking’ my page. I hope that you gained something from reading my posts. I’m glad that I knew you and my sincere condolences to your family.

It’s been a while since we left that noble school, yet we are still learning lessons from it.

Joy can be Found in the Simple Things

Who's teaching whom?

Who's teaching whom?

I have a feeling that my grandson, Hayden is going to teach me a lot. He’s now seven months old and full of beans.

‘Shouldn’t that be the other way around?’ you ask.

Well actually, here’s the thing…

Something I’ve rediscovered in my quest for continual improvement as a coach is that the best way to learn things is to teach them.

Profound eh?

Think about it though – when someone asks you a question or they have a problem on which they are stuck, you help them discover the solution by asking questions around the issue.

Jeff Slayter and Kane Minkus, who are my amazing coaching gurus, describe the process as ‘Discovering a whole heap of rabbit holes and diving down them until you figure out which rabbit hole is the most important one to the client so you can keep digging’.

As you ask the questions and observe the reactions and responses, it challenges your own thinking too.

In fact, the strangest thing is that I keep finding that the very things my clients are asking me about and having problems with, seem to be a direct reflection of my own questions. Sometimes they are current issues or sometimes they are issues that I have just finished sorting out myself.

In helping my clients, I also  crystallize my own thoughts and consolidate my own strategies or direction.

You could actually conclude that we see life as a reflection of ourselves, because all of our beliefs and habits are shaped by our experiences and our familial structure, so we filter everything we experience through our own unique view of the way the world works – what we students of Neuro Linguistic Patterning call ‘Our Map of the World’.

 

What we see is a reflection of ourselves

What we see is a reflection of ourselves

 

George Faddoul, another of my great NLP mentors said that ‘We should never be astonished at anything that happens in life’.

Now that’s a deep topic for another day, but the point is that the lessons are there, just waiting for us to notice them.

What started my train of thought was seeing the sparkle of joy in Hayden’s eyes as I waved a bottle of water in front of him.

We’d just finished our Tuesday evening volleyball game and the family were all stood in the car park chatting under the floodlights.

The light was catching the water in the bottle and causing interesting reflections.

Hayden was fascinated and his little face was beaming with delight as he reached out to touch the bottle.

It was the same fascination he had when we put a mirror on the floor for him the other night.

So there you have it. Seek out enlightenment and reach out and grab it, no matter your age.

Children aren’t cluttered with all of the stuff that we worry about. They just see the joy in the simplest of things. Now if we adults could reinvent ourselves to be that way again…

Until next time, remember to look and to notice those special moments.